Explaining Love

How do you explain love? I truly think that it can not be done. The number one question people have been asking me lately is why do you want to get married? Old or young, married or single, family or friend, It seems that telling them that “I’m in love” will never be enough, which is True. You can’t just tell people, “I’m getting married because ‘I’m In Love.’” If I do then I just look like some love-sick school girl. I try every time to explain my love for David to people that ask me why I’m getting married. I actually think I do a pretty good job, but it never seems to be enough for some. I know in my heart my reasons, but how do you explain your heart to others? I don’t think you can explain it, I think it can only be seen. The more the people see us together the less they ask that question. What I can’t explain to them verbally is explained through our actions. One person In David’s family gave me a hard time. She wanted to know why we were getting married ‘SO YOUNG.’ I don’t remember using the words love at first and I did that intentionally. She asked me, “What makes you two so different from all the other ‘kids’ your age that get married and divorced.” So I responded by throwing statistics back at her. I told her that one of the biggest reasons why younger people get divorced is because of money. I then went on to say that David has a nice paying job, he has a house, he has more than one car, and most of all he has great credit. Of course that wasn’t enough for her, she then wanted to know what I was contributing to the relationship. I knew the answer to this also because David and I don’t go a day with out talking about these things. I said that when I’m not going to school I will be taking care of the house, meaning cooking, cleaning, taking care of Gunner (David’s Dog), etc. I don’t know when taking care of the house stopped being a job because she said to me something along the lines of “Well, what about when you change, will you still want to do that in a couple of years?” I had reached my patients level at that point. I told her even before I met David I wanted to be a house wife. When David and I finally decide to have kids I’m going to stay home to take care of them. That’s always been my dream, I’m only going to school for a fall back plan. The reason why I’m getting married is because I’m in love. Love , can not be explained, but the reason I know we’ll continue to be with each other is because we both have a system that works, we have our friendship, and we have our dreams. I agree that I’m young, something that I forget a lot, but David is hardly a kid anymore. He’s been taking care of himself for a while now. He has all the same responsibilities that a forty year old has. We both know that I still have some growing to do, but want to be together while I do that growing. We know marriage isn’t a field of Daisies and at times we’ll want to give up; that’s more than a lot of couples getting married realize.

When people want to ask, “ Why do you want to get married?” “Because I’m in Love,” is the correct answer. It seems lame, but it’s true. I can easily answer anyone who wants to ask, “How do you know it will last.” My answer: We don’t know, we can not tell the future, but we do know that we are willing to try no matter what. I’m happy, anyone that has seen me in the last couple of months can see that. I’m happier than I have been in a couple of years.

Thank you to those loved ones that have supported David and I. Not only supported, but have trusted us that we’re making a good decision.
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